I doubt that my grandchildren would recognize the Chanukahs of my childhood. They took place amid the backdrop of my best friends’ and next-door neighbors’ Christmas extravaganzas. Their homes looked to me like fairy houses strung with colored lights on the outside and huge Christmas trees in the living room, with colored balls and delicate, shiny angels on top.

Xmas envy

Underneath the tree were beautifully wrapped presents in all shapes and sizes. This was long before there were Chanukah decorations and lights in the stores or on people’s homes. In my family, we had a wind-up menorah that played Israel’s national anthem, “Hatikvah,” and I could never grasp the fun of playing dreidel. Even as a child, it felt so simplistic and boring to me.

Silly song?

Although half of the children in my elementary school were Jewish, the Christian and Jewish teachers ignored Chanukah and taught us only Christmas carols. But let’s face it, the only well-known song back then was “I Have a Little Dreidel.” The words were so lame, even to my 7-year-old ears, that it was embarrassing.

“I have a little dreidel, I made it out of clay

And when it’s dry and ready,

Oh, dreidel, I will play.”

Besides, no one I knew made their own dreidels. If you looked hard enough, you could perhaps find them in the stationery store.

I still remember my fourth-grade teacher, Mrs. Jacobson, who was in my mother’s B’nai B’rith chapter, matter-of-factly teaching us the words to “O Come, All Ye Faithful.” She told us the Jewish children could sing “Dom Ne Num” instead of “Christ the Lord” at the end of the song. That evening at our dinner table, my father informed me that “Dom Ne Num” was just the Latin translation of the divinity of Jesus.

Even in our family circle, our Chanukah party was nothing to write home about. After the business meeting discussing the cemetery plots was finished, Aunt Minnie, who was the only unmarried sister of my grandmother’s 11 siblings, distributed presents to the children. She had purchased them at John’s Bargain Store, which is to say they would never have been found anywhere near my friends’ Christmas trees.

Of course, I, like most other Jewish kids, harbored a secret envy of Christmas, especially when I saw the big dolls and dollhouses and bicycles that my friends received. My gifts were more modest—gloves, an angora hat, some new socks.

When my three children were young, I was determined to make Chanukah a better experience for them with better celebrations and bigger gifts. Of course, they attended a Jewish day school, which helped immeasurably.

Now, our children and grandchildren have the Chanukah of my childhood dreams—receiving as gifts enormous Lego sets, Barbie playhouses and pink cars, American Girl dolls and video games. My granddaughter’s best friend, who is Catholic, said that she wishes she were Jewish so she could celebrate the holiday and receive gifts each of the eight nights.